Do I Have to Bring out the Mama Bear?
Nothing brings out the mama bear in a woman like someone messing with her child or the innocent child of another woman. If you threaten our children in any way, you had better be willing to fight, because we’re coming out with teeth bared and claws out.
The recent comments of my son’s van driver have weighed heavily on my mind. When he mentioned wanting to grab a child on that van, something in me awoke in a nasty mood. It has been slowly burning inside of me ever since.
Things that he has said in the past have gotten my attention and made me worry. His overall attitude sucks.
He is the only driver we have ever worried about. The others have been marvelous. I have serious doubts about his heart for working with Autistic children.
He seems to think that all he has to do is drive the kids back and forth to school, and that he shouldn’t be expected to keep the peace as well. It may work that way with the average child, but not with Autistic children. They have their issues with one another (if they can speak), just like any other child. They get stuck on wanting things to be a certain way. When patterns get changed, they get upset.
The same night that the driver mentioned wanting to grab that other child, I asked Cameron, “Is your driver nice to you?”
He replied, “When I talk, he tells me to be quiet. When I talk to him, he doesn’t listen. When I sing, he yells at me.”
The combination of these events was the last straw. I contacted the Special Education Coordinator, who told me that I must contact the Transportation Coordinator for our school district. She gave me a name and I called.
I told the lady about all of the events that have been happening. I voiced my concerns. She took me seriously. She said that she would be contacting the driver’s boss, and that someone would be getting back to me very soon.
Within a few hours, the man’s boss called me. I told him all that had happened. He heard me out. He suggested a meeting between myself, the driver, himself, and the Transportation Coordinator.
He said he wanted to see everyone’s body language, not have a “He said, she said.” He said, “I don’t want to fire him without at least giving him a chance.”
He also said that maybe the driver didn’t understand some things about Autistic children, and that he himself didn’t know a whole lot. I thought, “I tried to tell him, but he said he didn’t want to hear it.”
I agreed to a meeting, which he is attempting to set up for tonight or possibly Monday night after work. Meanwhile, I have a lot of thoughts going through my mind, things I want to say to the driver.
I don’t like conflict, but when it comes to my children, I bring out a side of myself that is rarely seen. I almost hope the meeting is set up for tonight, so that I am mentally prepared to be more forceful if I need to be.
If the mama bear needs to make an appearance, it will happen. If a calmer attitude will get more accomplished, I will go that route. I will do whatever is necessary to ensure the safety of all of those innocent children.