An Advantage Over NT People
Tuesday was a good thing/bad thing sort of day where Cameron was concerned. His report from school, along with his own words revealed this.
One of the things that they were pleased with is that he sang a song to everyone. A couple of years ago, he couldn’t interact with his peers, much less sing to a group. This is unbelievable progress.
The bad thing was revealed when he told us, “Two boys on the playground made fun of me and said my song was lame. But it wasn’t. It was great and everyone loved it.”
He feels things very deeply, as do I. But he processes them much differently. His feelings get hurt, but that doesn’t hold him back for long.
He has anxiety about new situations, and trying things that he thinks may make him look “lame,” but if he gets it into his head that something he is doing is great, very little will change his mind.
I surprised my husband the other day, by saying, “Maybe he is better off than most people. Sometimes, I would like to be more like him.”
My husband looked at me like I’d lost my mind. I quickly explained.
“Yes, he has his issues and challenges, but he has something that I would like to have. He doesn’t usually notice the subtle body language of other people. If someone is talking behind his back, or making a certain facial expression about him, he probably won’t notice. Sometimes, that holds him back. But sometimes I would like to be just a little less aware.”
I’m not sure if my husband really understood where I was coming from, but he did the whole nod and say the right words thing. He knows that I am a very sensitive person. It is good to be loved exactly as I am. He doesn’t necessarily have to understand every quirk to my personality; he just loves me as the whole package, much like we love and accept Cameron.